when my uncle was finally hospitalized my aunt called me to tell me
he was havng low urine output and constipation yesterday
his heart was strong, but breathing labored
he appeared to have hematochezia due to some sort of internal bleeding
she said stool was black with a lot of blood
constipation, GI upset, sensitivity to drugs he has been taking?
don't know
labored breathing clearly atrtibutable to the chf
marika wrote in message ...
>before my uncle died he was trying to decide whether to move back to
Philadelphia from vegas
>
>I told my aunt, I don't know what you should do . I think you need to do
what is
>right for the both of you. Are the doctors unable to offer him anything
for his
>eyes. and today she had her own cataracts remove. I to her I would love
to have them closer here. But who is to say I will be
>here next
>year?
>
>On the other hand, if you come back, i told her, you will be closer to my
parents. On the down
>side, my mother doesn't drive.
>
>But the weather is only half the problem. It is certainly one
consideration.
>
>Things I read about the elderly moving scare me. Apparently moving is a
huge trauma
>for anyone in any age bracket, but the elderly take it harder.
>
>and here i am facing a second move in 9 months
>
>While I know in vegas they had good doctors there, it is a known factor
that doctors that
>are in teaching hospitals have access to the most recent information and
treatment
>techniques. So that is one positive factor in moving back to
philadelphia.
>
>and she now has access to doctors in teaching hospitals because her
landlords are one retired doctor that teaches at the new Drexel
>facility and one that is her son in practice.
>
>
>Those are the things that went through my mind. I just wish he could get
some
>vision back. he never could Then at least he could read and stuff. Or
get out when he needs to. but it was the depression from
>not being able to read that got to him
>
>i think he was able to deal with the not walking from knee pain
>
>but once he couldn't read that was it
>
>he died she survived
>
>she moved to philly he didn't
>
>i moved to dc
>
>
>
>marika wrote in message ...
>>.so the wife thanks me for sending the game, flipwords, she said she
really
>>enjoys it.her highest score is 24 rounds for 198550 and the longest
words
>>were 6 letters.
>>
>>Me, I beat her to smithereends.
>>
>>honey never played it, even though i bought it for him, for one thing he
>>couldn't see too well.
>>
>>He had to stop driving because he didn't pass the eye test for his
drivers
>>license,and he was very depressed. but thank Goodness the wife passed
hers
>>so at least she cuold drive. their HMO had a program where they drive
you to
>>and from medical appointments for a nominal fee.and that is good because
>>they don't like to drive in the city. honey would get a little vague
>>somtimes and didn't understand what she was trying to explain to him.
she
>>had to tell him several times before he understood what she was telling
>>him,and he had gotten very frail.so they talked it over and decided to
go
>>back to Philadelphia.Their property taxes had doubled that past year.so
it
>>was getting too expensive in Las Vegas
>>
>>Sheesh did they have a clue they would be about 10 times that in
>>Philadelphia.
>>
>>She made me a cd with Jeanette Mcdonald on it
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>marika wrote in message ...
>>>And speaking of honey not driving, tato and she were talking
>>>about driving, and she said it may not be
>>>such a bad thing, cataracts or not, for him to stay out from behind a
>>wheel.
>>>And
>>>so further on that topic, tato asked her if
>>>she ever thought Ma would get a license, and of course she said no, and
she
>>>wouldn't
>>>let her get one now anyway, and so he asks her
>>>how she's supposed to get groceries when he's dead. and so she says she
>>will
>>>take her every weekend, and he gets all huffy and
>>>says that's not enough, she has to go every day, and what will she do
then?
>>>So she says, there is NO WAY she needs to go every
>>>day, and she can go twice a week if she needs to, and not to worry, and
he
>>>insists
>>>she has to go every single day, and it is
>>>very im****tant for her. So they ask her, Ma- what is the average trips
per
>>>week you will
>>>need to go the store? And she says ONE,
>>>possibly even less.
>>>
>>>And we both remind tato that the only person in our house (or any other
>>>house for that matter) who has to go to the
>>>store every night, or he will go insane otherwise.... is tato.
>>>
>>>marika wrote in message ...
>>>>My sister said, every weekend she would home, and tato goes on
>>>>for HOURS & HOURS endlessly about all the condos they saw that week,
and
>>>>makes her look at all the pictures and listen to hours of directions
on
>>>>how to get to each one, and which one is better than which. You can
tell
>>he
>>>>was really into this 'finding them a condo' project. It is also
>>>>obvious which one he recommends and likes best, and it is painfully
>>>>obvious that is the one honey likes the least (costs too much) and he
is
>>>>leaning towards the worst one of the bunch (cheapest at 180K).
Although
>>>she,
>>>>didn't originally think the nice one was worth it (225K) she did not
>>>>realize at the time it has a pool, a spa, cards/game room, TV lounge,
>>>>computer room, library and other stuff to keep them entertained, so
now
>>she
>>>>thought they should break their ****celain pig and get the nice one. It
>>>>really is alot nicer than all the others. Much better built, too.
It's
>>>>40K more than the cheapest one, but only 20K more than the mid-price
>>>>ones which also have no entertainment at all for the wife.
>>>>
>>>>So tato is going on and on, and she says to Ma "what do you think" and
she
>>>>says "All I keep thinking about is to make sure we don't pick one that
is
>>>>much too close to Doylestown".
>>>>
>>>>she thought that was kinda funny of her to say. she actually would not
>>mind
>>>>at all living close to honey, it might be kinda fun to hang out with
him
>>>>more
>>>>
>>>>The irony of it all came clear when they all went to breakfast and
>>>>ma said "We're all gonna die and leave Terry with AF." Now THAT would
be
>>>>karma getting back at her, wouldn't it?
>>>>
>>>>marika wrote in message ...
>>>>>his wife said he was supposed to get his cataractrs removed but they
>>found
>>>>>he has glaucoma in his right eye.He would get one drop of eyedrop
every
>>>>>night and had appointment with eye Dr. the following month.as for
his
>>>>>vagueness it could be from his hearing.but she tried to explain the
game
>>i
>>>>>sent as a birthday present ,he could not understand it could be he
>>>couldn't
>>>>>see the letters.
>>>>>
>>>>>i bought him flipwords because he loved things like crossword
puzzles.
>>>>>
>>>>>that was november 2004
>>>>>
>>>>>I guess i realized then he wouldn't be with me much longer.
>>>>>
>>>>>It amazes me he made it for another year. I didn't want to see him
at
>>>that
>>>>>point and I am glad I didn't. I wouldn't have been able to dealwith
and
>>>he
>>>>>wouldn't really want to see me there watch him suffering. pride
>>>>>
>>>>>but boy he toughed it out.
>>>>>
>>>>>a lot of pain and he did nothing but just let death come and grimace
>>>>>
>>>>>but his wife said, But you know he gets annoyed that he can't do
anything
>>>>>anymore.
>>>>>
>>>>>marika wrote in message ...
>>>>>>My sister always knew my tato is a shop-aholic, what surprised her
is
>>>that
>>>>>>HE didn't know and is
>>>>>>in total denial. He really thinks it's Ma who needs to shop every
day,
>>>and
>>>>>>not him.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>The nicest condo they could ever see for honey also hads
medical-type
>>>>>stuff,
>>>>>>it's like a half-way house between
>>>>>>a nursing home. That's why the parents liked it most, and probably
why
>>it
>>>>>>costs
>>>>>>the most. They do stuff like drive you to the doctor and give you
>>>>>>meals and stuff, too. It's not quite assisted living, it's a little
more
>>>>>>independent than that. she thought it sounded like a good idea for
them
>>>>>both
>>>>>>honey and his wife.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>at that point, my sister thought she didn't really think she was
that
>>>much
>>>>>>healthier than us guys. since then she has lost about 30 pounds but
she
>>>>has
>>>>>>also suffered a prolapse. she just hadn't
>>>>>>been to a doctor in 20 yrs. she has been since and that's why she
lost
>>>the
>>>>>>30 pounds cholesterol and what not. She said: You're only as
healthy
>>as
>>>>>>you deny yourself into
>>>>>>being. she said she may have better vision than me, but probably
that's
>>>>>all.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>mk5000
>>>>>>
>>>>>>marika wrote in message ...
>>>>>>>Hi !
>>>>>>>First of all - thanks for the letter.Now I will try to answer all
your
>>>>>>>questions.
>>>>>>>As far as the cataracts and surgery are concerned - I will know
more
>>>on
>>>>>>>14th of december - that is when my appointment with the doc is
>>scheduled
>>>>>>>As far as glaucoma is concerned- it is a new development and it
>>>concerns
>>>>>>>the right eye only.It is in very early stage and is very treatable.
>>>>>>>I have no idea what you are talking about re:place tato found for
me.
>>>>>>Your
>>>>>>>tatp and I talked it over. and I decided to have the operation here
-
>>>>>>before
>>>>>>>mo ving east.In the spring we willsell this house first. then we
will
>>>>move
>>>>>>>to Pa and start looking for aplace to live.
>>>>>>>Take care and write some more UH
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>mk5000
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>Rebecca: Oh look, there he is.
>>>>>>>Enid: As always.
>>>>>>>Rebecca: Waiting for the bus that never comes.
>>>>>>>Enid: I wonder if he's just totally insane, or he really thinks the
bus
>>>>is
>>>>>>>coming?
>>>>>>>Rebecca: Why don't you just ask him?
>>>>>>>Enid: Hi. What's your name?
>>>>>>>Norman: Norman.
>>>>>>>Enid: Are you waiting for a bus?
>>>>>>>Norman: Yes.
>>>>>>>Enid: I hate to tell you this, but they canceled this bus line two
>>years
>>>>>>>ago. There are no more buses on this street.
>>>>>>>Norman: You don't know what you're talking about.--ghost world
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>
>>>
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